Bad behaviour is often an effective way to attract attention of parents. The conflicting time will probably start at the stage during her third year: tears and tantrums often go hand in hand with being two years old.
Phrasing limits in a positive way focuses on what to do, rather than what not to do. When parents and caregivers offer these positive statements, they reinforce for children what is appropriate, serve as desirable models of communication for children to imitate, and decrease the likelihood for children to respond with defensiveness or resistance.
When children understand the reasons or rationale for limits, they are more likely to comply and abide by them. Furthermore, teaching children the “why” of a limit helps them internalize and learn the rules of social living. For example: “The sand stays down low so that it doesn’t get into people’s eyes.” “When you put the toys back on the shelf, people can find them easily when they want them.”
The golden rule to dealing with bad behaviour is act quickly. You should step in right way and remove the source of trouble – take away the toy that’s being fought over, or pick up your child and remove him/her with a firm NO. At the same time distract your baby’s attention with some other activity or toy. You just have to be consistent and not angry, so that your child gets a clear message that he/she is never allowed to behave in that way.
Bad behviours are punished but you should also reward your babies for good behaviour. The best reward is your time, attention and love. Praise, a cuddle, a story on your lap, admiring words all these make your child feel good and special.
It is very likely, that your child gets most attention when he/she behaves badly and least when he/she behaves nicely. You should appreciate your child for the behaviour your want, this will encourage him/her to behave properly. By appreciating his/her nice behaviour you will be giving your child a good and useful lesson.